We are afraid of the wrong things.

Afraid, other words for afraid - frightened, fearful, terrified, anxious, troubled and scared these are all words that have the same meaning as afraid that you can use in a situation or in a sentence other than ‘afraid’.

Are we afraid of the wrong things? You cannot say that so generally because you do not know what it is that any person at any given time is afraid of.

There are many things that we can be afraid of, and then for the wrong reasons. I think that we are only afraid when we have reason to be afraid. I know that I am only afraid when I feel unsure or have no knowledge on what is just about to happen. There have been so many defining moments in my life, where I have been afraid – going to America just a year after 9/11, almost a week to date that myself and 9 other friends flew over, we were afraid, but it was that ‘what if’ kind of afraid. What if the plane blew up? What if we were held hostage? What if nothing actually happened? And nothing happened we were just afraid for the wrong thing – I learnt a lot about myself on that trip, and we all learnt a lot about each other. Boys get scared too.

I went to New Zealand, flying via Singapore, on my own, I was afraid not afraid of travelling so far on my own, but afraid of meeting a man that was not part of my life for nineteen years, and now wants to be part of my life. I’m afraid of what my life is going to be like once this man is part of my life. Is being afraid of that wrong? I don’t think so because I don’t know what is in stall, but because it is a journey, and learning journey, I think that it is fine to be afraid in this case, afraid to discover the journey – no I am going to embrace it.

We are what we do.

If I am there for a friend because she needs someone to talk to, am I a psychologist? If I cook supper at home, am I a chef? If a pick my brothers up from school, and then give one or two of their friends a life home, am I a taxi driver? If I help out a friend, family member, or total stranger in the shop pick out an outfit, does that make me a professional stylist? If someone is hurt and I help them out, does that make me a paramedic?

We are not as we do but as we choose to be at any given moment in time. Yes, sure the things that we do define the person that we are, but those things that we do come as a choice, we think before we do, so what we are is not what we do, because sometimes we do what we do because it needs to be done, to get through and survive so that is what we needed to do.

We are not what we do, on a technical note, there are many people out there that are teachers, technicians, drivers etc, and they are not what they do because they are not enjoying what they do, they have no passion for what they are doing. If you are doing something because you have to and not because you have a passion for it, that is not what you are, therefore you cannot be what you do.